Redefining Perspectives

I’m stepping aside from my blog series about ultras for a moment to chat about something that has been weighing on my mind.

While most of my posts discuss race recaps and running fun, there is also a negative side I didn’t expect to experience from losing weight and returning to the racing scene. Obviously, I like to share positive and inspirational posts, but sometimes I feel being truthful and open is refreshing. Also, my words just may hit home with someone else. After a conversation this morning with fitness friends, I realized I needed to put my thoughts down on “paper”.

Most of you reading this probably have only known the “me” of the last 10 years or so. When you met me, I was sedentary, overweight and not overly confident. Some of you may only know the “me” of the last 2 years, when I hit the running scene again after 15 years.

Yes, these two versions of Becky are vastly different.

At this point, I feel more like me than I have since I was in college. I feel alive, energetic, healthy, outgoing and inspired to help others. Sharing my passion for fitness and running helps me to keep putting one step in front of the other. I feel reignited.

Now, the dark side I’ve experienced. There’s a word that’s been floating around that makes me cringe. Upsets me. A word that makes something so positive in my life seem so negative.

Obsession: a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling.

I run 5 days a week and take 2 days of rest. I run early in the morning so I don’t interfere with family, work and other extracurricular activities. If I’m sick or really injured, I will rest. Because I may run what some may consider extreme distances, I may be considered obsessed. Because I run through most any weather, I may be considered obsessed. Because a core group of my friends are runners, I may be considered obsessed.

I prefer dedicated. Passionate. Committed. Lucky to work in a field I love.

Running is what keeps me sane. Running alone, or with friends, allows me to escape for just a fraction of my day. A short period of time to get away from the day in and day out stresses of life that will be awaiting me once I cross back over the threshold.

This is my therapy. My time to clear whatever is on my mind; mull over big decisions or plan out my day.

As I said in my last blog post, some of you will understand the need to push your boundaries. Some will not. Either way is okay; just don’t pass judgment on those who aren’t the same as you. For each of us, there are different feelings, different emotions which trigger how we view each other. Some will ask “why?” and some will say “why not?”. I have a need to pursue the challenges set before me. I am unable to leave a box unchecked without trying. You may see obstacles differently than me.

Friends, family, we are not obsessed. Are we preoccupied with an unreasonable idea? I don’t believe so. Yes, maybe we are not normal. We say yes when others say no. We rise when others sleep. We do what others may not. We have a drive; a need to determine our limits and then break through. We are always on a quest to see how far we can possibly go.

For those of you have been with me along my journey, yes, I know I am different. After college, priorities changed and I did not consider myself high on the priority list. Now, I want to be the best I can – for not only myself, but for my family, for my kids to know to never give up. That anything is possible, whether you are 20, 30, 60 or beyond. Why let others make the rules? Go and be you.

And, if you truly feel obsessed? Come run with me; we’ll enjoy a therapy session together 🙂

2 thoughts on “Redefining Perspectives

  1. Very well written. I enjoyed reading this one a lot. I think every runner has had someone use the word “obsessed” or “crazy” to describe them at some point. It’s all about perspective and what each person wants at that point in their life.

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  2. I’ve been accused of this many times…lost relationships over it. People don’t understand being dedicate and determined….especially for long term goals. Most people give up when things get hard and if you don’t you’re “obsessed.” Well, no one ever achieved greatness by staying comfortable, taking the easy way, or sitting on the couch. Finding life balance is difficult, if you and your family are happy then great! Keep up the good work 🙂

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